I’ve been wondering this week why I’ve noticed so many books, movies and women trapped in what I’ve decided to call, “the whining mode”? I’m not sure why it’s bothering me so much but it’s like someone scratching a chalk board or chewing on tin foil…I’m really annoyed by all this seemingly female whining. I think I have developed a low tolerance because I’ve been there, right smack in the middle of total chaos, where the world seemed to be chewing me up and spitting me out, coupled with emotional turmoil that was attempting to hold me hostage for forever, all while raising a child on my own. I was, where a lot of single moms are today; feeling alone, desperate, financially strapped and my future completely on hold and quite frankly out of reach. I have been at that very place and managed to pull myself back into the world of the living and the productive so, I say this with much love in my heart…stop whining, please!
“Adulthood is defined by the willingness to accept full responsibility for where you are at in life; no longer blaming others or circumstances.” — Joe Westbrook
A few months ago I discovered an amazing home for single moms who had previously been homeless, sleeping on the streets or in their cars with their children. You think you have it bad? These women were some of the unfortunate recipients of the demise of our American economy. They were the hard-working moms who washed the towels from your luxury hotel room and scrubbed the floors of your class “A” office building. They lost their jobs and then they lost their homes. There are over 900 homeless children in Osceola County, Florida alone which is astounding to me. These women are living in the depths of poverty, lost in an emotionally taxing maze and not complaining, just trying to get through it the best way they possibly can. The home I visited had a caring staff dedicated to helping these mothers and their children get back on their feet and into new jobs and new homes. They are provided with what most middle class Americans would consider “the basics”, but to them its gold. Shelter, food, clothing, safety and someone to help them in their quest to change their lives for the better. I admire them, these beautiful ladies who have a large cross to bear and are willing to work diligently to change the future for themselves and for their children. No whining, just hard work, graciousness, humility and love. We can learn from these mothers and their dedicated focus to change their circumstances. (www.osceolahome.org)
I usually like to focus on the positive, but today, although I have many glorious friends that I admire for their courage and their fortitude (you know who you are) I’m really just giving a shout out to all of you who are in “victim” mode. C’mon ladies, reclaim your dignity, pull up those boot straps and save yourselves by learning to take each day at a time and focus on taking positive steps towards rebuilding your life and a healthy productive life for your children. It’s a tough place to be, I understand that, but at some point we have to move forward. Take your first step today and then tell me about it. I’d love to hear from you.
“The world is wide, and I will not waste my life in friction when it could be turned into momentum.” —Frances Willard