Some years ago, I sat at the top of the stairs in the home I had created and I realized, it was now just a house. I felt alone and as if my feet were stuck in cement and I could not move myself out of my life drama. Some years ago, I lost my HAPPY. I couldn’t find it no matter how hard I tried. Everything seemed cold, empty and pointless.
Not too long after that deeply pathetic moment I discovered empowerment. Mostly because, quite frankly, I could not stand the sad, needy, wisp of a woman I had temporarily become and I discovered that if I could find my HAPPY, I could empower myself to move forward, reach goals and see change.
So how do you empower yourself to find your HAPPY and change your world you ask? Hmmm…well, I put a lot of thought into that and tried a few things that worked and a few things that did not work. However, I’ve narrowed down my recipe with three ingredients to finding your HAPPY and getting your self-empowerment and self-motivation back on track…here we go!
FEED YOUR MIND
We feed our bodies food and water, even vitamins so why not feed our mind, heart and soul? When I was at my lowest point in life I became a ferocious reader. I would take myself and my daughter to the library, find a stack of books for her and a stack for me. I love reading from real books but audio books are good too, especially if you have a long commute each day. I read everything inspirational and instructional that I could find on those dusty shelves. I drank in knowledge, perspective, instruction and guidance on everything that applied to my life at that moment. I knew that if I could arm myself with information, I could begin to thaw out my brain and think things through on a different level. It worked. It was a satisfying meal for my mind.
FEED YOUR HEART
So, this one was tough because sometimes our hearts are cut and bruised and there’s not a band-aid in the world that stops the bleeding. However, there’s no better medicine for a hurting heart than to do for others who have less. YES, you heard me, give of yourself, your time, your expertise, your assistance. I know what your thinking, “are you kidding me? I’m a mess! I can’t help anyone!” Okay, yes, those words crossed my mind a time or two and perhaps even left my lips as I was talking out loud to myself; however, if you can find somewhere to volunteer and help make someone else’s life better, you will have provided your hurting heart the medicine it needs to recover and at the same time, given valuable and maybe even life changing help to someone in need besides yourself. I’m not suggesting you spend all of your free time volunteering, but find something that will fit into your life and commit to it. You will begin to discover that while you are helping the world around you, the cut heals, the bruising goes away, the starvation leaves and life begins to seem more beautiful. And then…real happiness begins to enter back into your heart.
FEED YOUR SOUL
Feed your soul with something that touches you on a spiritual level. I’m a nature girl and I feel completely at peace outside with the trees, birds and blue sky. For me, long walks or runs in the outdoors takes my soul to a place that restores me on a level like no other. It’s my church. However, it doesn’t matter what works for you, a Catholic church, Jewish Synagogue, Mosque or traditional Christian Sunday School. It’s finding a place where you can quiet your mind and your soul long enough to hear God. I grew up going to a traditional Christian church and I remember what I felt when truly in the presence of this higher being. It still resonates with me. Feeding your soul is as important as feeding your mind and your body. I found this to be paramount to my empowerment and my well-being.
Finding your happy is a continual process. It eventually leads to the deepest joy imaginable and you will soon realize that it’s a product of understanding the power you have to change your circumstances and thus the world around you. It’s a journey, so don’t sprint, take your time to walk the road, view the beauty, reflect and listen. You will begin to see a change and feel true happiness.